As I watched the elevator door close, my mind raced through memories of days gone by.. days that one may want to forget, and yet days that have molded me into who I am today. For some, the walk down memory lane brings up a past that one may not want to recall. It is [...]

It is a difficult process.  Probably unbearable at times, possibly impossible.  And, yet, it is a road or path that is presented and may be viewed as required.  It is so much easier to have a temper tantrum and demand attention.  It is so much easier to focus on oneself and demand that one be [...]

Deborah E answers the question, “My aunt keeps posting insults on my facebook, referring to my boyfriend. I don’t know why she has to be so judgmental. And why does she have to post it on my Facebook wall? Oooh, she makes me sooooo mad. What should I do to stop her?”

That is a difficult situation and I understand your frustration.

First, I assume you have already done this, but just in case, have you tried talking to your aunt, either by telephone or, at the least my message? Obviously, we all believe the “right answer” is to try to talk face-to-face, then telephone or skype, and finally, email, IM, or message, but sometimes that does not work or we end up talking AT each other instead of listening and trying to resolve the issue.

If either one of you is not fully interested in resolving the conflict and really protecting the relationship,

Deborah E answers the question, “We are not happy any time we meet under one roof so what do we do?”

It is hard when people are not happy meeting under the same roof. It makes it very difficult, especially when you really care about someone, love someone, and want things to be better. Sometimes even civility and polite behavior would be an improvement over the circumstances you are currently experiencing. But, then, there are times when seemingly kind behavior is only a mask that covers something even more devious and ugly beneath it and one can find themselves not only unhappy in the current environment, but days, weeks, months later, as they process possible negativity that they have experienced.

We don’t want to start off assuming that it is anyone’s fault, as all of us could use some improving, couldn’t we? However, regardless of whose fault it is, or whose fault it is not, you need to examine what you need, can live with, and cannot live without.

The fifties were probably the most interesting times in history. What with the world just recovering from the devastating aftermath of the Second World War. This is the era whose music still makes even the most heavily left-footed dancers to break into a jig. This is the era that was a perfect mix of post-war optimism and pre-modern innocence.
But above all else, the people back then knew how to have fun, how to go wild and shake off all that stress. This probably explains this generation’s fixation with that long gone time. If you’re one those too (and we don’t blame you for that), and intend to host a 50s themed party, our simple and snazzy little guide should help you best.