Deborah E answers the question, “The guy that I have known for a long time now told me that his girlfriend would be coming for a visit. I love him. He told me that it is not that he would marry any girl that he had dated. Please advice me on what to do.”

It sounds like you are saying that this guy is not interested in marriage at all, or that he has a desire to marry someone whom he has not met yet or does not know. If he has lofty dreams of someone whom he does not know, his desire for this unknown woman is elevated to a level that possibly no one could reach, not even the unknown woman, herself.

We are human beings, good points and bad. Our flaws need to be embraced as much as our beauties.

If he is telling you that his girlfriend is visiting, but not to worry because he wouldn’t be marrying her, then I would ask myself if this is one-sided. Does the girlfriend know that she has reached the plateau of their relationship, that they will never, according to him, proceed past this point? This is not really our business, but if that is what this guy is saying, he is not really expressing an interest in marriage with or to anyone, so it makes it a little tricky for you when your desire is to marry someone who doesn’t want to be married.

Deborah E answers the question, “Why don’t I feel the man yet he is happy before me?”

I understand that you are suffering and that this is a very difficult situation for you, one that is not easily resolved and one for which a resolution is hard to identify.

First of all, you need to communicate this with your man. Possibly, you have already done this. If he is uncaring on how you feel and the fulfillment that you need, you may want to look at the relationship, beyond the intimacy time. You may want to consider meeting with a counselor to discuss aspects of your relationship.

If you have discussed it and your relationship is intact, but neither of you can find a way to have mutual happiness, then you may want to

Wellness isn’t just about being balanced and healthy in your physical body, it is also about having healthy emotions and responses and being able to communicate your needs in a way that is not detrimental to other family members. That may sound like a tall order, considering some of the heated words that can take place, but there is a middle ground that all family members can strive for. 
Communication is an important tool to teach your children. However, in that teaching, you should not just disregard their thoughts and feelings simply because it does not fit in with your wishes, or your plans for the day. Nor should you overrule their complaints unfairly without any thought. Communication is a two-way process and it requires participation by all parties involved. Once you have a good level of communication, you can strive for a solution to any issue and this will result in more family harmony (hopefully!).

In order to be successful in life you need to have many personality traits. One of these traits is self-discipline which is the ability to commit to your important tasks under all conditions. People who lack self-discipline usually give up along the way and never get their important tasks done and that’s why they never become successful.

In this post I will tell you how to develop self-discipline so that you can become successful in life.

How to develop self-discipline?

Change your beliefs: People who never give up on important tasks aren’t the ones who always feel like doing them but they are the ones who do them even if they don’t feel like doing them. That’s why understanding this fact on its own can help you develop self-discipline. Keep on working even when you feel down, sad, bad or depressed.

Commit to easy tasks: When you commit to easy tasks and do them under all conditions you will automatically be able to commit to harder ones. Once you teach your mind the concept of commitment under all circumstances, you will find yourself able to stick to all of the important tasks you do.

Train your will: If you managed to teach yourself to withstand simple irritation you will be able to stand tough emotions without being affected by them. For example, learn how to control your temper during simple situations such as traffic jams and you will find yourself more in-control during tough times and bad moods.

Don’t rely on friends: Many people rely on their friends to encourage them to exercise or to do other tasks and that’s one of the reasons why most of them never manage to commit to these tasks to the end. If you want to do something, then put in mind that you will do it alone. If a friend showed up to encourage you consider it a bonus but never be fully dependent on him or her.

Hold on to the tasks under all conditions: Some people commit to the important tasks as long as everything is good but when life gives them a hard time they pull away and stop. Each time you stop doing a task you actually break the self-discipline you have developed, and start all over. Stick to the important tasks under all conditions and you will be able to develop self-discipline.

Dealing with the death of a loved one is very difficult; more so if the loved one died of a wrongful death such as a car accident. However, you have to get past your grief because there are so many things that you need to do. If you have someone who can perform these tasks then good for you. If not, then you have to set aside your emotions and do what needs to be done.
Below is a quick checklist of what you need to do when someone you love dies.
Inform People Closest to You
The first thing that you need to do is to inform people, especially people closest to you. Their presence will help you deal with the loss, and you can also count on them to help you with the rest of the tasks.
Call Your Local Funeral Home
You will also need to call your local funeral home so they can pick up your loved one’s body. If the deceased has already arranged his funeral arrangements, then all that’s left for you to do is to verify them with the Funeral Director.
However, if death was sudden and no arrangements have yet been planned, then you will need to start planning the deceased’s funeral arrangements. This will include choosing the date and time of the funeral and the location of the burial. This will also include choosing the cemetery plot as well as the casket. You will also need to choose a grave marker and whether or not there’ll be a monument on his tomb. Aside from this, you’ll also need to choose between entombment and cremation. Finally, you’ll also have to plan the memorial service for the deceased.
Contact the Deceased’s Employer
Once funeral arrangements have been confirmed or made, you will then need to call the deceased’s employer. You have to inform them of what happened, and you also have to ask if the deceased still has any outstanding compensation or receivables from the company. You will also need to know if the dependents are still entitled to receive benefits, or if there is any life insurance policy made through the company.
Get in Touch with Relevant Agencies like Life Insurance Companies and Social Security Agency
Aside from the deceased’s employers, you also need to get in touch with the deceased’s life insurance companies and file claims. You also need to get in touch with Social Security and other relevant agencies. You need to know, too, if the dependents will be receiving any benefits from these agencies for the death of a loved one.
Call a Lawyer
If your loved one died due to a wrongful death like a car accident, then you need to call a personal injury lawyer as soon as possible. This will not bring your loved one back, but it can help you get a compensation for his death. Remember, he would’ve been alive if not for the negligence of the person or company who caused his death, and for that, you have the right to ask for compensation for your loss. The compensation that you’ll be receiving will help you pay for the funeral expenses and for the months that will come, especially if the person who died is the breadwinner of your family.Jennifer Dall writes for a number of personal injury lawyers, including a car accident attorney Spokane. She mostly writes about car accidents and what you need to do should a loved one die because of a vehicular accident caused by another party.