How Can You Help A Loved One Who’s In Jail?

It might seem very farfetched to you but it can happen that a loved one will find himself in jail. He might have been caught driving over the speed limit or driving under the influence of alcohol or drugs. He might have been caught shoplifting, or the neighbors might have reported him for domestic violence. There really are a lot of reasons why someone you know can land in jail, and as a friend or someone who loves them, there are some things that you can do to help him.

Bailable or Not?

First off, is his case bailable or not? If it is, then you can do something to help him get out of jail before his next appearance in court. You can help raise money for his bail amount, so he won’t have to spend more time in prison. The earlier you settle his bail, the faster he can be released.

Of note though; bail amount depends upon the crime, the severity of the crime, the number of times he’s committed that crime, the judge, etc.. If the bail amount is too much and you’re having a hard time raising the money, then you can approach a bail bond company. What the company does is to shoulder the bail amount for a fee, and through their services, your loved one will be released out on bail.

Visitations and Letters

If the case isn’t bailable and he has no other choice but to spend time in the holding cell before his trial, then do everything that you can to make him comfortable. The holding cell, even though it’s only a temporary one, is still a scary place. Your loved one will be frightened and stressed out, so what you can do is to visit him regularly. A visit, however short it might be, can always make him feel better. He’ll find comfort in your visits, knowing that people still care for him, despite what he’s done.

If you can’t physically visit him, then send him a letter. A letter is something that can keep his mind off of his present problems, and it can also help keep his stress and fear at bay. It’s also something that he can get his strength from whenever he feels he’s about to collapse and give up from the stress of everything.

Set Aside Some Money

Let’s say that he’s been found guilty for the crimes he has committed and has to spend jail time, then what you can do next is to set aside some money for him. He’ll need some money while in prison to buy things such as toiletries as well as snacks. Yes, they’re given meals daily, but sometimes, little treats like cookies, chocolates, and even ramen noodles can make a huge difference to them and remind them a little bit of home.

It’s heartbreaking to know that someone you love is in jail, even if it’s only a holding cell and he’s waiting for his bail to be posted. But doing little things such as visiting him, showing your support, and simply letting him know that you’re there for him will always be a good source of comfort for your incarcerated loved one.

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  • Growing up, I can’t count the times I have had loved ones in jail. I have visited, have had childhood friends end with their journey being a life sentence. It’s never easy when your loved one ends up behind bars, but there are definitely some steps you can take.

  • If an accsed is unable to pay for his bail then he can hire a professional bail bondsman to assist him with the bail process. Bail bond service providers pay for your bail against a collateral and charge a specific percentage of the bail amount as their fee.

  • I will definitely look up whether my cousin’s criminal case is bailable or not. When I read your tip that people should bail them as early as possible so that they can be released, I thought that I should find a bail bonds company as soon as possible. Doing this will help him continue his work at his call center job so that he can feed his pregnant wife and kids.

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  • I love your take on getting bail if possible, we will weigh in if this offer is considered in my brother’s case. My brother had not dealt with credit card debt, hence he is in jail. We will need an expert in bail bonds just in case we are charged with a lot of money.

    • Thank you for your comment, Afton. That is tough when jail is the result of something that could possibly (hopefully?) be taught, like credit card management. And, that is a tough one for many people! I hope that he is able to find resolution and it is good that he has you.

  • My little sister hasn’t been making some of the wisest decisions lately. Thanks for talking about bail and if I should do it or not for her. It is good to know that it would be smart to hire a bail bond expert to help us out.

    • Thank you for your feedback, Ivy. It is difficult when we have those we love and we do not know what the best option is to help them (or not help them) so that they have the best outcome but not only that, so that we do, as well (as in not being hurt, etc.). We wish you the best!

  • My uncle is having a really hard time because his wife has been in jail and he doesn’t know what to do without her. He would really like to work together with a professional bail bond agent and get her out as soon as possible. I liked what you said about how he should be sure to visit her and write her letters as well as setting aside money so that she can buy toiletries and snacks.

    • Thank you, Jenna. We appreciate your feedback! And, we wish your uncle and his wife the very best.

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  • My husband was arrested under the charge of stealing from his previous employee; that’s why we’re currently looking for a bail bond agent who’ll let him out whilst the case is on trial. I agree with you that it will be best to pay a visit to him, so he’ll at least feel comfortable and safe. I’ll also keep in mind to provide him mine, so he may at least buy snacks or meals for himself.

    • That is great that you are so encouraging, Rachel. Yes, love is the answer for many thing. Hope your sister is doing well, too (that was from another comment). And, hope you find a bail agent that works well for your needs (or maybe I should say “found.”)

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  • It was interesting to read about a bail bond company that can help with the total amount of the bail to help get someone out of jail if you can’t come up with the money yourself. I would imagine that if you or a loved one is in jail, it could be scary and you would need to get out in order to do things like go to work or hire an attorney. Finding a reputable bail bond company ahead of time might be a good idea so if you ever need their services, you’ll have their contact information available.

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